While first dates can be wonderful and exciting, they could as well end up being awkward and boring. A lot of people prepare by planning for the perfect outfit, location, meal and drink. But they rarely think about what not to do or say when on the date.
Below are 10 important things about what not to say or do in order not to blow that first, all important date.
1.Don’t be late
Punctuality is always important whenever you are going out. No one wants to be stood up for more than 20 minutes, especially on a first date. If you show up late, you will be passing a message which could be interpreted as not having regard or appreciating the person.
2. Don’t talk about your ex
Don’t mention your ex during discussion on your first date and never ask about your date’s love life.
Mentioning your ex may suggest to your date that you are yet to get over your former love.
Focus on getting to know your date. Past relationships can be discussed when you must have developed a deeper relationship with him or her.
3. Be attentive
Listen! When you’re on a first date, make sure you listen to the other person. Try as much as possible to put your phone away and don’t get absent-minded. During the date, you can learn about your partner and be able to make the right decisions as to whether to start a relationship or not.
4. Don’t invite your friends
Don’t invite your friends when you are going on a date. A date is a one-on-one interaction with your prospective future partner, you don’t need a third party. It is no longer a date when you go out with your friends. It becomes a group meeting.
5. Keep your conversations simple
You don’t have to bore your date with your life story on the first date. Keep the conversation light. As time goes on, you will know more about each other.
6. Dress well
Looking good is good business. Pay attention to your dress, shoes, hair and make-up. Make sure you are comfortable in your wears. A good dressing will boost your confidence.
7. Don’t forget your manners
Practise good manners when you are spending time with that special person you are meeting for the first time. Watch your behaviour and practise basic table manners, like not chewing with your mouth open, not talking with your mouth full and keeping elbows off the table.
8. Avoid negativity
Never bring your bad mood to a first date as this can lead to transfer of aggression. Your date can pick up your negativity and feel upset as well.
Remember, you are on a date to explore a new relationship. So when you are not in a good mood, it is better to cancel the date.
9. Avoid argument
Expressing your opinion is not bad but trying to make your date agree with everything you say is wrong.
It is therefore better and safer to discuss lighter topics. Be polite and respect your date’s opinion.
10. Don’t get drunk
Don’t get drunk on a date. Alcohol can loosen your tongue and make you say things you do not mean to share. It can also make you take things further than you have planned.