Akinwande Soji-Ojo
Nigerian singer and songwriter, Simisola Ogunleye, popularly know as Simi, has revealed the impact of motherhood on her life and marriage to fellow artist, Adekunle Gold.
In an interview with CNN African Voices, released on Saturday, Simi said that it was a transformative experience becoming a mother.
“Yeah, intensely. I remember saying that I felt like the woman that I was the day I gave birth was very different from the woman I was the day before.
“Until you see this human being that you’re now suddenly completely responsible for and you have to make choices about, you don’t really understand the gravity of that situation,” she said.
Simi, who acknowledged that motherhood has reshaped her in various aspect, said: “And it has definitely changed my life in so many ways. As a woman, as a person, as an artist, as a friend, as different things, as a wife even.”
While acknowledging the challenges and compromises that come with her new role as a mother, she expressed gratitude to her supportive husband.
“It definitely helps that I have a supportive husband where I don’t feel like I have to do it all by myself,” the singer said.
In 2019, Simi married fellow artist, Adekunle Gold, and in 2020, the couple welcomed their daughter, Adejare.
Reflecting on her relationship and marriage to Adekunle Gold, Simi said: “Yeah, I get the irony. And I guess that was also part of the challenge. I didn’t know he was trying to be a singer. I actually made the choice. I said I could never date someone in the industry.”
She, however, said their shared passion for music has strengthened their bond.
“We’re both very respectful of each other’s craft, and we also respect each other’s opinions. I think it’s important to also set boundaries because work is work, you know what I mean? And I think we’ve been able to do very good with that as well,” Simi said.
When asked to offer advice to those aspiring to make a career in the music industry, Simi noted that there is increasing competition, saying: “The climate has changed. There’s so many musicians out there now, talented and otherwise.”
“I would say make sure you love this because it takes a lot out of you.
“You have to stay focused on whatever your dream is and keep on pushing because that’s all you can do,” she added.